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Dear Oprah

Dear Oprah,

Tonight you aired your second segment of interviews with people in the hasidic community, and you asked four mothers what they would do if they had a gay child. It's clear that you didn't get a serious response from them but I want you to know that I grew up in this community (Crown Heights) as a hasidic Jew and I am openly gay today.

My journey since being thrown out of yeshiva for being gay and attempting reaparative "change" therapy to become straight and then coming out proudly about who I am is quite an interesting one, and it would be a shame if the world wouldn't get to see the real answer to this question, my answer, and the answer about the hundreds of other gay jews that come from these communities.

My stories are already documented in multiple news publication and throughout my blog, but here is the article that was published in the Jewish Press recently chronicling my experience while growing up frum (religious orthodox) and gay.


  1. From what I hear you have only for yourself to speak for, you were never bullies as a child, you were treated like everyone in your class, I highly doubt they kicked you out when you were much older for being gay, rather for the gay tendencies or affection for others in the class, it only makes sense for the school to ask you to not be around the other boys for everyone else in the class.

    And as for our "Opinion" go have a read on the Lubavitcher Rebbe's talks, he explains very well the origin of the problem, how far it dates back and its remedy.

    Go have a read! or speak with your local orthodox Rabbi

    1. Are you for real? Get some facts before you start jumping to conclusions about what has happened to him in his life. Go pick on someone else and leave this poor kid alone.

    2. Yeah, fuck off, cyberbully.

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  5. I think it shows tremendous regard for the Gay & Lesbian Community for Oprah to ask those Mothers what they would do if their child told them they were Gay. I also don`t understand what you wanted these Mothers to say to her. They were tactful at best in their answering. What would your Mother say to the question? I think it important to appreciate at times what IS being done.

    1. They were tactful in their answer at avoiding giving a proper answer. As I'm sure you know this isn't the first time Oprah has talked about such issues but this was the first time people represnting our communities had a chance to say something about it and they completely sidestepped it and avoided giving an answer. That might be tremendous regard on Oprah's part but not on these women's part, in fact so many people told they viewed as an embarrassment and a chilul hashem.

    2. Some think it's important to appreciate at all times what is being done. I believe Mr Levin wrote on this issue today:

      Sometimes what is being done is impressive progress. Sometimes what is being done is oppressive stagnation. Sometimes what is being done is not enough. Sometimes what IS being done is nothing and people are harmed as a result.

  6. Proper by whose standards? They answered the question as they saw fit. Everyone is self serving as you apparently are.
    I see you already posted on Facebook that (according to you) "someone is posting rude comments".
    A response in of itself isn`t rude. You get to give your opinion. People have the right to respond. If that bothers you because your so thin skinned then maybe you should try another venue.

    1. Seriously? 'Proper' as in genuine or befitting the situation -- here an answer to the actual question, rather than lying, denying, equivocating, or as, Anonymous wrote, being "tactful at best".


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