I know that you cannot live on hope alone, but without it, life is not worth living.... And you, and you, and you gotta give 'em hope. —Harvey Milk.
Inspired by Milk, I offer this website to anyone who feels alone, confused, unwanted and unaccepted.
Hi Chiam,It's Jessica. We met in Shabbat at Yale. Thank you so much for sharing your story with out community. It was so lovely to meet you personally. Thanks so much for being so warm and kind to me. I felt really comfortable talking to you and telling you a bit about myself, which is a big deal. I hope our paths cross again some day.
Hello Chaim,I stumbled upon your blog last night and can't tell you how moved I am by your your story and courage. I, like you, am an "Ex-Lubavitcher". Unlike you, however, I do not have the courage to be completely open about my beliefs. While I did take some steps to pursue a "non-traditional" path, I still live a double life in many ways. I can totally relate to what you must have gone through (and are likely still going through). I am amazed by how well you write and speak given the Oholei Torah "education" that you received ( I myself was a victim of this backward educational philosophy). I am considerably older than you so I am painfully aware of the price that one pays for living "in the closet" (and I am not referring necessarily to sexuality).On your 23rd birthday I would like to wish you abundant happiness and the courage to continue to inspire others to live lives that are true to themselves.
Chaim-Its so unexpectedly heartening to see a frum contribution to the "It gets better" movement. I am especially appreciative of the courageous trailblazing that you, ML, and others have been doing over the last few years (including, but not limited to, the youtube videos, rallies/parades, interviews, articles, book contributions, etc). You have know idea how many lives you have been positively impacting- perhaps even saving!- by the simple act of being your genuine self in public, and modeling a life of integrity and congruence. One comment- from the looks of it, JQY seems to be a little "G" heavy when it comes to representing the LGBTIQ community. Where is the rest of the rainbow hiding? As a graduate of a knee-sock and pinned-collar girl's school, I think it might be interesting to explore both the overlapping and non-overlapping elements of the "gender" experience for those of us who were raised in the Orthodox community and who experience [same-sex attraction and/or gender identity questions and/or identify with a sexual orientation other than "straight"]. Just a thought.
I found your blog and am adding it to my resources.
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How to deal rainbow colorsBrothers feeling love for brothersDo I embrace or do I scornWas it nurtured or inbornAlways taught me to acceptBut now these souls I must rejectThe guilt roots from my own embraceFor are they not of our raceAnd are they not created fromThe same Image as where I comeBut yet, a block, a warning greatThat orders us to separateAnd throw out love and usher hateAnd not accept nor validateOur children who’ve been dealt this fateOur children with this on their shouldersHate and anger fierce as bouldersAnd so, you see, why I am tornI can’t hate just for being bornBut neither can I shed the scornFor I believe in GD AboveAnd I believe He treasures loveAnd I believe His Word Is trueAnd He says I should love each JewAnd He says I should hate the gayFor they are evil in their wayBut are not both our souls as pure?So damned am I to stay unsure.
Hi Chaim,My name is Hadasah Havivah Zeltzer . I am a survivor and an Artist. Please check out my website TZEDECKMUSIC.COM TM, THE GEVURAH FUND TM, and THE GEVURAH ONE DOLLAR FUND SM. I am the process of working on the first fund to help survivors financially . Please check out causes.com for more info. about the THE GEVURAH ONE DOLLAR CAMPAIGN SM. I love your work and hope we can collaborate sometime. Check out this amazing Jewish "hip" Hip Hop artist from Boston he is really cool and he brings a message of hope. Hope to connect soon.https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=pRjdyV--4p0https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=pRjdyV--4p0https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=pRjdyV--4p0All the best,Hadssah Havivah ZeltzerTZEDECKMUSIC.COM TM
I am a successful, well-liked 20 year old "beis yaakov" girl.I have always identified (internally) as more male than female, though it hasn't caused much mental or spiritual anxiety since my parents allowed me to be a "tomboy."Now that I'm in the "real" world, however, (I work for a powerful business firm), and entering the age of marriage, I am more and more conflicted about my identity.I feel that if I was not frum, I would definetely be transgender, however, I value my judiaism too much. As an aside, I am attracted to men.I don't know where to turn. I feel so conflicted, since I feel like I am all wrong, and I am starting to hate my body. Chaim- have you ever spoken to people in this situation?
Hi there,I'm sorry to hear about what you're going through! It's important to remember that you are NOT alone in going through this and yes, I have spoken to many people in this situation. If you would be ok with emailing me directly (feel free to use an anonymous name if you need to), I'd be happy to provide any support that I can and also direct you to others and resources that can definitely point you in the right direction.Best regards,Chaim Levinchaim89@gmail.com
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